Relationship Probs..Help!

[TFM]

Well, I wouldn't know all the details about your situation but I don't think he should blame you if he knew how your parents were before you guys got together. I've never been in a position where I wasn't able to see my gf, so I can't say I understand how it is, but I do realise times like that can be trying and the best thing to do is just to talk reasonably and try to work things out.

 

[LadyDeath]

vicks girl goodluck cuz i kinda in your shoes

 

[Wyspa]

Can't offer any advice on that aspect. I have never been in the situation. But let me ask you this. Why haven't you told your parents about your relationship as yet? Is it that you're underage (sorry had to ask)? Does you family believe in a strict formal life plan for you (can't date till a certain age)? Does your boyfriend belong to a different race as you and your parents may not approve? Till these questions are answered I can't offer any perspectives.

 

[LadyDeath]

LOL i think that her family is strict and has traditional ways like mines

Okay here's a next one. What if that's your obstacle in your relationship. Not being able to meet, don't have time to talk because parents are around, can't tell parents because they will stop you from talking to your partner and they said strictly that they wil be shamed and stuff you know the traditional ways. Thats always the problem. its the root of trying to move on and grow but its holding the relationship back and the girl side always gets the blame and we have to understand what the boy side going through... It always is and when we do tell them what we have to face everyday of being suffocated in a house we are being selfish and we always doing everything wrong and we are the cause of their wrong doings if they mess up. So any light to this subject or you all pass ??

 

[Resha]

U sound like me before I got hitch....But the difference is that we both had understanding for each other.... 1. Not being able to meet...I used to meet my bf once per month, twice if lucky...2. Don't have time to talk...Cell phones always a bless. Morning text says alot, lunch time talk briefly and night talk or text....Finally 3. Afraid of the parents... Im sure ur parents knows u have a BF... But they would not admit it to u. There are signs they see and sometimes they may agrue wit u but let it pass.. Sit down wit them and tell them of ur BF( they will speech u off) Thats jus to let them know u have someone..Now and then surprise them wit little gifts from BF..(They may still speech u off) try to mention his name little more often in conversations... Parents can't run or hide the fact that u have a BF.. So eventually they may give in... They may stop quarrleing wit u about him... And when the time is right for u, make the introduction....

 

[LadyDeath]

I have another problem. This facebook thing. Me and admin does quarell about it and saturday he tell me i have time to go on it and not enough time to talk to him so i deactivated it. I think sunday or monday i activated it back but as you know admin gone and busy so we don't have time to talk to tell him that i did . It wasn't even a big deal and because he saw me activated it back he got vex and tell me how i unfaithful and deceitful bcuz he don't know who i talking to. but the thing is i only have uncles and boy cuzins and i don't know what to do.

 

[Resha]

Never thought i may have to say this, but cous(R) u have a bit of a trusting problem... whats the big deal with FB...Let it go... Admin, it was wrong to use words like unfaithful and deceitful.... One minute he pouring out he heart to u then he back to square one... So far as i can see, she's dedicated to trinispice so visiting FB is what ?

 

[Vickie]

True. Kar does always be here admin and its not like she will do anything to jeopardize allure relationship. i kno her and all i can say is you must not be so insecure at times lol