Rejection After Being Led On

[RauCous]

i think i'm guilty of this... i tend to get really cold to people when they get too close too fast for me, i'm friendly when everything is all benign but certain levels of activity and intimacy just plain freak me out... poor people... i've done at least one girl this.. :Throw:

 

[admin]

i believe this happens when you don't know what to do what someone gets close to you, and also it could be a case where you are that ready as yet for that, so you push that person away because you panic

 

[LadyDeath]

or maybe you want to be with them but you have certain things in the past that affects how you live now... i got that line from Supernatural lol

 

[RauCous]

I have no major traumatic experience that weighs me down. Just an innate distrust of close relationships due to my lack of meaningful experience... it all seems so technical and complicated. I've never been able to see everything as an organic cohesive whole. If it ever is. I can't track the level of intamacy, personal boundaries or any sense of relevancy concerning relationships.
I'm just one major noob.. . I'm not sure in my ability to be a partner in a relationship..

 

[LadyDeath]

I think you just should relax and be yourself man stop building a wall to keep you safe..take risks and enjoy life

 

[RauCous]

You have no idea how impossible that sounds to me lol.

 

[Vickie]

I have a problem.i am friends with alot of guys rite and i have a bf but some of them ends up liking me as in a lovey way. Please i am myself with them and i do not lead them on so is it how i act all free with them that they like me?

 

[RauCous]

They say people are attracted to those already in relationship because those already in relationship's are more confident and genuine. You're more likely to be relaxed with the guys when you know you're already taken care of. You can do alot that you know is of no consequence but to anyone single would suggest alot more.. :s
And if you're even plain looking guys are gonna feel attracted anyway..

 

[LadyDeath]

Hmmm.... vicks like you in a pressure spot. Just don't study them yes because you know you are not single. Don't study the outside comments they just playing with you to see if your strong enough with ur bf

 

[sita]

if you have a man vickie and ur happy do not study about anyone because u know u not guilty of nething

 

[Wyspa]

buh how dis change to vickie problems. i tort it was Raucous issues we talkin bout???LOL. but in all reality, Raucous, its about time you try actually facing ur fear and date a female. yuh stickin. the only way for you to overcome ur fear is with practice.

 

[RauCous]

I have to stop aiming for epic in everything i do because i always end up doing nothing at all. Need to relax and start living for a change..