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Do you think that religion is a big deal, when it comes to a relationship, even when marriage is concerned?
 
Re: Different Religions in a relationship.

I wont advise that cuz one aspect will flourish at the expense of the other. If you're extremely religous the relationship will suffer or if you're well into the relationship your religion will suffer. I think its one of those things that have to be the same between the partners in order to survive the relationship. Even if you have the same religion different levels of spirituality would cause some strain.
People are expected become more alike as thier relationship progresses and differing worldviews kinda kills that.
 
rac ... You are so wrong no this one ... You won't believe ...

Religion / race / age /social class has noting to do with love and caring for some one ... A relationship is two different people trying to be happy together , not becoming one.

Take it from me i'm living proof of it ...
 
Dude you got me all wrong... I'm not saying it's impossible dude and i'm not an elitist or anything- there really is nothing that prevents us from loving who we want, the way we want. I'm just saying something has to give.
Say I'm this uber uptight fundamentalist christian dude, I'm all about exposing the evils of men and condeming people to hell lol, i like this girl she's a blood drinking, vampirical, promiscus trance-metalist athiest. (who is hot as hell lol).
I really like her she's a strong fun minded, carefree independent woman and i'm a respectful compassionate man. Apparently we appeal to each other but I if I'm truly the fundamentalist i am, I cant in pure conscience let her suffer what I consider to be a wasteful lifestyle and she can't stand to see me not live life to the fullest. If either of us change we weren't truly convinced in our beliefs. If we dont change we're more concerned about the state of our souls or state of mind than we are about the state of our relationship. I might be wrong but relationships cause people to change, not arbitrary change, but change that shows you're willing to give to your partner, that you love or trust them. If that change never occurs it's extremely difficult to show you love your partner. I'm just talking about expressing it.
We can love each other all we want but if we push the relationship into anything close to marrige something will break. Something will have to make way to the other. I doubt both things can stay in the current state.
 
yea i understand what RauCous is tryna say, it is partially true, i was thinking, i am a Christian, but i really like this Hindu girl but i was wondering where that would have taken us because, we both have partially different beliefs, for example Divali, i enjoy it, i know the meaning but still, when it came for time to pray to their god, what would i be doin at that time????So I say that its kinda, partially different
 
Differences would always occur in a relationship but how do you deal with the things that are part of your core person?
It very possible to have a relationship across all those boundaries people do it everyday but i think it takes effort to balance commitment to one's belief and one's spouse a little more than someone with more aligned beliefs. But hey if you know you want some thing go for it... just remember you asked for it. lol.
 
RauCous said:
Dude you got me all wrong... I'm not saying it's impossible dude and i'm not an elitist or anything- there really is nothing that prevents us from loving who we want, the way we want. I'm just saying something has to give.
Say I'm this uber uptight fundamentalist christian dude, I'm all about exposing the evils of men and condeming people to hell lol, i like this girl she's a blood drinking, vampirical, promiscus trance-metalist athiest. (who is hot as hell lol).
I really like her she's a strong fun minded, carefree independent woman and i'm a respectful compassionate man. Apparently we appeal to each other but I if I'm truly the fundamentalist i am, I cant in pure conscience let her suffer what I consider to be a wasteful lifestyle and she can't stand to see me not live life to the fullest. If either of us change we weren't truly convinced in our beliefs. If we dont change we're more concerned about the state of our souls or state of mind than we are about the state of our relationship. I might be wrong but relationships cause people to change, not arbitrary change, but change that shows you're willing to give to your partner, that you love or trust them. If that change never occurs it's extremely difficult to show you love your partner. I'm just talking about expressing it.
We can love each other all we want but if we push the relationship into anything close to marrige something will break. Something will have to make way to the other. I doubt both things can stay in the current state.
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Wow..couldn't have said it better..well done...well done... :icon_cheesygrin:
 
Religion has nothing to with loving someone....But it may only apply to those who is strict about there religion and only wants a person of there nature... Im a hindi and im involved with a christian guy...we have very happy together for about seven years now...and religion has not affected us
 
Well Thats True my cousin is a strict Muslim and His Wife is a strict Christian..On a Friday He Goes to Mosque and on Sundays She Goes to Church and they respect that...HOWEVER One problem that arrives is when a child is present in the home and he/she is growing up...what is the child gonna be..will they celebrate both??? Will they go both religious places?? How wud the child choose?? will they grow up with any religious backround??
 
I guess they will have to leave that up to the child to decide.... They will expose the child to both religion but when he or she reaches a age to choose which religion he wants ... he chooses...Most of the time when a couple get married the wife suppose to take up the husband religion but nowadays everyone wants to go there own way....
 
Resha said:
I guess they will have to leave that up to the child to decide.... They will expose the child to both religion but when he or she reaches a age to choose which religion he wants ... he chooses...Most of the time when a couple get married the wife suppose to take up the husband religion but nowadays everyone wants to go there own way....
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Why should the wife change? lol her religion is her life... her soul... :icon_neutral:
the deal is if your religion doesn't allow you to love everyone equally or causes you to have prejudices its no religion you want.. if it doesn't allow others to have free will then its no good..
 
Yeah but Raucous some people wudn't see it in that way as we do..Its a long time saying that women suppose to change their religion to show that they love their husband and respect him but also to only have one stable relgion that they can follow together and engage in as one family body.
 
As karina said "its a long time thing when the wife suppose to change to the religion of the husband" .
Its different now ..kinda... Some choose to pratice two religion in the same house but i don't know if that works out...Im sure it must have some kinda arguement..
 
As i said when a child is present..its true bcuz i see some families having it...like for eg. Mothers would want the child to engage in the same beliefs as her but fathers may feel that they are the men of the house and his child sould follow his....And its happening to someone very close to me who is a child in a household like that and right now he is faced with a dilemma and doesnt know what to do bcuz he was expose to both religions......
 
Its a difficult decision to make when yuh expose to two religion as a child....But parents should not put that burden on the child .. they should come to some solution when the child born to decide what religion they should carry....
 
U See some may really think differently bcuz not all parents are concerned about what happens to their child...But parents have to make the right choices to guide their child's future. I Was exposed to 3 religions as a child but i chose Christianity. Some children may not make the decision as me thats why a strong family body must be developed to be able to deal with these thing and make decisions that they all agree to
 
Three :| ? All i was faced with was to belive or not to belive... you had to do that three times! I think the same thing.. the child should be able to choose and that if the parents take it seriously the child would too. If the parents into religion just for so then thats not fair for the child.. the parents must give real help when letting the child decide and respect the decision too. Just like they would have respected their partners own.
 
I was raise in a hindu home but i don't know half of what does be going on.... yes i would say its my parents upbringing but yet i still follow it because its a norm for me...Now i faced with another religion choice which makes it difficult to learn from stratch but i still hold on to my hindu faith... the choices we make in life is sooooo hard!!!!!!!
 
Life is really hard resha. How do you follow a religion that you are unfamiliar with. I think is how strong a person is in their belief that hey would/won't give it up. I am in a different religion than my family and my fiance is too as well and when we get married we are choosing to marry in that one .
 

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